A man has been praised for refusing to pair up with his sister\u2019s bridesmaid because she had previously \u201cghosted\u201d him.<\/p>\n
In the popular Reddit forum \u201cAm I the A**hole?\u201d, a user who goes by the name u\/chabortoo detailed how his sister is getting married this year and that he\u2019s in a \u201cweird situation\u201d because of it. He went on to give some backstory about his sibling and said that he\u2019s going to be a groomsman on her fianc\u00e9\u2019s side, since it was important to her sister that he was \u201cincluded\u201d.<\/p>\n
However, he then revealed his disappointment over the nuptials. He explained that, in being paired with a woman in the bridal party to walk into the wedding alongside, he was partnered up with a person he used to date and shared details about how the relationship started and ended.<\/p>\n
\u201cSo two years ago I met this girl named Tara (26F) on a dating app,\u201d he wrote. \u201cWe started talking daily. FaceTimed a lot. Went on dates. We talked for over 3 months. And I felt like it was actually going somewhere. Well, after one of the dates she completely ghosted me. Sent a follow up text but got nothing back. I won\u2019t lie. I was really upset. I even talked to my sister about it.\u201d<\/p>\n
He also noted that after he moved away for a job, he came home to discover that his sister and Tara had become close friends so she was now in the upcoming wedding.<\/p>\n
The original poster (OP) said he even spoke to his sister about his history with Tara.<\/p>\n
\u201cI found out they were friends literally three weeks ago,\u201d he continued. \u201cShe never mentioned it to me. I asked if she knew it was the Tara I got ghosted by. And she said Tara had told her. But wanted to keep their conversations private.\u201d<\/p>\n
He continued to explain how he received a text from Tara asking about what they were doing for their \u201centrance dance\u201d at the wedding. He then acknowledged how confused he was by the message, so he decided to ask his sister about it.<\/p>\n
\u201cI asked why. I know many of her bridesmaids and she had to pair me with the one who ghosted me? She said she had her reasons. And Tara also asked for me specifically,\u201d he added. \u201cI never responded to Tara and instead went to talk to my sister in person. Got the same answers. And this time she sounded offended??? that I asked for a different person.\u201d<\/p>\n
He said that when he told her sister how \u201cuncomfortable\u201d he was to be paired with Tara, he said that he told her to \u201cstop overthinking\u201d and \u201cjust do it as her wedding gift\u201d. The brother then explained that he decided not to be a groomsman, which upset his family.<\/p>\n
\u201cI told her I\u2019d be stepping down from the wedding party. I\u2019ll just go as a guest. She went apes***. Saying I couldn\u2019t do that. And she wanted me up there,\u201d he continued. \u201cI said fine then switch me to a different girl. She said she wasn\u2019t going to. So I told her I\u2019d be dropping out. My parents are calling me an [a**hole].\u201d<\/p>\n
As of 8 September, the Reddit post has more than 19,900 upvotes, with readers praising the man for leaving the wedding party and questioning the bride about why she wouldn\u2019t give her brother a different bridesmaid.<\/p>\n
\u201cThey might be trying to set you guys back up, but why would you want to when not one person is willing to openly clear the air about what happened?,\u201d one wrote. \u201cInstead they try to force you two together, without explanation, and expect you to put aside your own feelings and self-respect to accommodate this, which is unnecessary in the 1st place.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019ve been more than reasonable. It\u2019s not like you\u2019re insisting that Tara not come to the wedding, or even step down as a bridesmaid, just that you don\u2019t want to be paired with her,\u201d another added.<\/p>\n
Other people went on to criticise the poster\u2019s family and Tara, since she allegedly asked to be paired with her the bride\u2019s brother.<\/p>\n
\u201cSo Tara ghosted you, deliberately sought out your sister, interjected herself into your family, specifically requested to be paired with you at the wedding, and now is making you look like the bad guy for not going along with her delusional matchmaking bulls***?,\u201d one wrote.<\/p>\n
\u201cMore than likely Tara wasn\u2019t just seeing OP at the time, and things took off with another relationship. That eventually fizzled, and now OP is a fail safe,\u201d another claimed.<\/p>\n
The Independent has contacted u\/chabortoo for comment.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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